LESSON NEVER LEARNED

It’s been a week since the untimely demise of the talented and controversial soul bird Amy Winehouse and I just can’t help but thinking ‘how could this happen… again?’

Not necessarily because of the shock factor because let’s face it, ever since she stepped into the scene Amy was a train wreck waiting to happen, it’s the culture of it all that gets me. Surely after so many wasted talents these people would learn? Personally I’ve never been a part of life in the fast lane, surrounded by drugs, endless booze and celebrity worship, I can’t know exactly how I would react in that world but I do know that if my lifelong ambition was a career in music I wouldn’t throw it all away for the road to perdition.

I just can’t seem to grasp what it is about a life of self-destruction that is so appealing? What ever happened to all those little boys and girls with big dreams of stardom that wanted to have their place in the world and be heard? Where were all the parents and managers supposed to be guiding their career when they were taking the wrong path? And why on earth can’t they finally learn to say NO or at least ENOUGH?

Music and film history is full of gifted yet tormented artists who starved, snorted or drank themselves to death, because they couldn’t cope with the life they once craved, they were incapable of learning from the mistakes of their predecessors and unable to handle the demands and expectations of those around them. If only they could stay on their path or get back on it if they stray, we might be able to enjoy their art longer but then again maybe they are extraordinary because they are tortured talents, maybe being brilliant comes at a price.

I was never a fan of Amy Winehouse but I did love her music, it’s a shame such a unique voice was silenced before its time. Let’s just hope that the rest of those fallen starlets can find their way back before it’s too late.

Until next time… Smooches to all! xXx

WHAT'S YOUR TRUTH?

‘Truth’ is defined as ‘that which is in accordance with fact or reality’. I personally always thought of truth as an absolute concept, like maths, unless you get the numbers wrong you can only really get one answer, the right one. But these past few years, particularly these past few weeks, I’ve come to realize that truth is a relative concept, it’s subjective and it varies depending on the parties involved.

It’s right what they say, that ‘truth is in the eye of the beholder’. I believe every incident has at least two realities, depending on who you ask and the number of people involved in the disagreement. This is because people interpret things in their own way and like it or not end up mixing their feelings with the situation, so in reality no one is sincerely truthful, I don’t think this is done on purpose it’s just human instinct, but when trying to decide what really happened I think it’s always best to hear all accounts and take it from there.

On the other hand, as my good friend Dr. House has said on numerous occasions: ‘Everybody lies’. Be it because they are ashamed of something they said or did and just can’t admit it, or maybe they are concerned about what others may think of them or how the situation will affect their lives, either way it’s always a good idea to take into account a person’s personality and traits, how many times has that person lied to you in the past (that you know of)? Would a fib be out of character? Do you trust this person completely?

Anyway, what I’m getting at is a truth is only real and unchanging to the person who said it or believes it, whether it’s all made up but that’s your story, or as an outsider you honestly believe that to have been the case. Take a couple dealing with infidelity for example, she believes he cheated, he swears he didn’t, even if he is being honest and never even looked at another girl, once it got in her head that he cheated it was a difficult thought to get rid of, she became paranoid and started imagining scenarios in her head when he may have lied, so it doesn’t matter what his reality is because she has a completely different one and the truth is once people convince themselves of something it’s pretty hard to get through to them. You have your truth and I have mine.

In conclusion, I might start recording all my conversations… just in case.

Until next time… Smooches to all! xXx